Big Milestones Of Life: Often Unpredictable And Uncontrollable
Because happiness is somewhat big and complex, it’s not always easy to know what will make us happy.
Many of us have been conditioned to see happiness as tied to certain big milestones in life such as finding a partner, getting a promotion, buying a house, having a child.
We tell ourselves that securing these things will complete the puzzle and give us our “happily ever after.” But the reality is, we’re not always especially good at predicting what will make us happy.
It’s also important to note that we don’t actually have a lot of control about how or when these big things happen to us.
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