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Grief signals loss
Our emotions can inform us about what we value. In the case of grief, what we feel notifies us about what we value in our relationship with the person who is now deceased.
Grief allows us to appreciate how that person contributed to our day-to-day lives, shaped our goals and commitments, and showed traits we might emulate or avoid. The hurt we feel causes us to notice and reflect on these things.
Grief drained of all painful emotions would not be very valuable, as it would deprive us of critical information about what we have lost. The pain of grief is essential to understanding loss.
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Grieving is a tool
Not every manifestation of grief is helpful. Sometimes the pain of grief is unbearable.
Grief is stressful, but not a shameful state that we should hope will resolve as quickly as possible. It is a potentially powerful tool for adapting to the loss.
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Grief can cause a kind of identity crisis
Those with whom we have close relationships are not interchangeable commodities that can be replaced. So we grieve ultimately for how others’ deaths are losses to us.
We do not grieve the deaths of everyone but only those with whom we have a relationship that is central to our understanding...
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Grief helps address the loss
Because grief is distressing, it motivates us to learn how to live in light of the loss.
Our relationships cannot continue the same way as before. Grief offers us an abundance of information about how to change the relationship. For example, widows and widowers often must ...
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Grief should not be avoided, despite feeling bad
Grief is undoubtedly stressful. It typically involves a long time of sadness or sorrow, but often other 'negative' feelings such as anxiety, guilt or anger.
The idea that our lives would be better without grief seems misguided. People assume it's good to try to prevent others from sufferi...
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Time is irrelevant to grief
Mourning the loss of a loved one isn't efficient or logical. It is different for each person. Grief can feel better and worse as time goes by.
We can not relegate all our heaviest grieving to specific days of the year. We will be reminded of details about the person at odd times.
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We often fantasize about the day when things will finally go our way. We have highly positive expectations of the future, but once what we expected did not match our reality we feel hurt and lost.
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- We resent the person who comes in and tries to boss us around. This is because we are independent, self-sufficient people. Or at least that's what we tell ourselves.
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