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Frames

Frames

When you frame a conversation, 

•you explain why you want to discuss a particular issue

• you explain intentions and desired

 outcomes for resolving the disagreement,

•Explain the significance of your 

relationship.

Frames dictate the rules of the interaction

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Body Language

Body Language

Control the frame with how you talk together with your actions.

• Set the tone so that the other person is reactive e.g BIG AND BOLD in your introductions

• Take your time in reacting to the situation, don't let the situation dictate how you respond. This requires self-control, self-d...

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Tone

Tone

Upward inflection: express an invitation or indicates nervousness

Downward inflection: expresses commands and indicates certainty

• Introduce yourself to the frame with HIGH ENERGY i.e greetings

• Be slow and less reactive when dealing with c...

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Effortless Impression

Effortless Impression

Have an abundance mindset. Set the belief that no person or one event is more important than the other as this is the EGO talking.

Consider your conversations as an opportunity for partnership rather than a zero-sum game. As much as people are lucky to work with you, you are lucky to work w...

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Confrontation

Confrontation

Take NOTHING personal

Challenging what is said and defending yourself against empty allegations means you accept the narrative that has been set for you.

It is better to be less reactive and maintain self-control. The less you have to defend or explain yourself the mo...

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Always have options

Always have options

Practice negotiating when you don't have to negotiate. In these situations, you are less needy therefore coming across as less desperate.

The person with the better option always wins therefore create other options for yourself.

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Notes from Charisma on Command

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  • When trying to communicate effectively with someone who has an internal frame of reference, appeal to the things they know about themselves. Tie your communication to a personal fact you already know about that person.
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Make a commitment

In times of intense disagreement, it's not uncommon for one or both parties to have one foot out the door. If you want to truly get to the heart of the matter, make sure the other person understands your commitment to the relationship. Even if you have an issue with the behavior, you have to keep...

Forcing Toxic Positivity

When people push you to "keep being positive" do not react immediately, instead, with a level head, try these:

  1. Ask the person to clarify their intentions as to why they're pushing for positivity
  2. Let them explain what positivity means to them and the importance of why you...

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