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With one-minute redirects, don’t attack the person. You want to get rid of the bad behavior, but keep the good person. The goal is not to tear people down. You want to build them up. To do this, avoid attacking someone’s self-concept. When our self-concepts are under attack, we become emotional and defensive. Behavior and worth are not the same things. We are not our behavior. We are the person managing our behavior.

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