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It's better to focus on where you are going than how you are feeling

A value-driven agenda

We might not have any control over the pain we experience, but we exert some control over how we respond to that suffering.

Common responses to difficult emotions include avoidance, substance abuse and aggression and lead to long-term damage in our relationships, jobs and our personal growth. Letting go of trying to minimize pain and moving toward a value-driven agenda can help us focus on who we want to be instead of how we want to feel.

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  2. It is part of a set of skills and behaviours and not a standalone concept.
  3. Resilience is not an individual trait or quality, but dependent on many contextual factors like one’s upbringing, social factors and health conditions.
  4. It is not a static concept but a flowing, dynamic process based on our life cycle and external conditions.
  5. Resilience does not make a person a superhuman being, and the journey of suffering, misery and pain has to be undertaken.
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