A different stance towards pain
An emotionally difficult exercise to help see the inextricable link between valued living and painful experiences is the following:
- Write down some of the internal experiences you are struggling with most – painful thoughts and judgments, emotions, memories.
- Then write out some of the things that are most meaningful to you – being a parent, learning, growing, etc.
You will find if you try to push the pain away, you will drive the meaningful stuff away too. So, if you want to do the things that are important to you, you have to make room for the painful stuff.
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