Some people let bad experiences scar them and prevent them from forming satisfying relationships in the future. Others are able to heal and move on.When people had the fixed mindset, they felt judged and labeled by the rejection.For people with the growth mindset, the number one goal is forgiveness. As one woman said: “I’m no saint, but I knew for my own peace of mind that I had to forgive and forget. He hurt me but I had a whole life waiting for me and I’ll be damned if I was going to live it in the past. One day I just said, ‘Good luck to him and good luck to me.’ ”

Relationships: Mindset in Love

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">“I can’t do it” Vs “I can’t do it yet”.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Concerned with how you'll be judged Vs Concerned with improving.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Interested on whether the answer is right or wrong Vs Interested in learning what the right answer was.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Avoid challenges Vs Embrace challenges.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Compare themselves with people worse than them Vs Comparing or competing with people with people better than them.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Assigning blame and making excuses Vs Facing failures, dealing it and learning from it.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Immediate Perfection Vs Learning something over time.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">See effort as fruitless or worse Vs See effort as the path to mastery.</li></ul>

Fixed Mindset Vs Growth Mindset

Your view of yourself can determine everything. If you believe that your qualities are unchangeable — the fixed mindset — you will want to prove yourself correct over and over rather than learning from your mistakes.

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Michael Jordan never let a mistake stop him.“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over. And that is why I succeed.”

One seventh-grade girl summed it up. “I think intelligence is something you have to work for . . . it isn’t just given to you. . . . Most kids, if they’re not sure of an answer, will not raise their hand to answer the question. But what I usually do is raise my hand, because if I’m wrong, then my mistake will be corrected. Or I will raise my hand and say, ‘How would this be solved?’ or ‘I don’t get this. Can you help me?’ Just by doing that I’m increasing my intelligence.”

Creating a growth-mindset environment in which people can thrive. This involves:<ul><li>Presenting skills as learnable .</li><li>Conveying that the organization values learning and perseverance, not just ready-made genius or talent.</li><li>Giving feedback in a way that promotes learning and future success.</li><li>Presenting managers as resources for learning</li></ul>

Business: Mindset and Leadership

This growth mindset is based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts. Changing our beliefs can have a powerful impact. The growth mindset creates a powerful passion for learning.

Growth Mindset

Fixed mindset coaches are intolerant of mistakes. They motivate players through judgement.For coaches instead of asking for mistake-free games, ask for full commitment and full effort. Instead of judging the players, give them the respect and the coaching they need to develop.

Children with fixed want to make sure they succeed. Smart people should always succeed.But for children with the growth mindset, success is about stretching themselves. It’s about becoming smarter

Children with Fixed and Growth Mindset

To be good at sports you need not be naturally gifted. To be successful in sports, you need to learn techniques and skills and practice them regularly.“Character” is an important concept in the sports world, and it comes out of a growth mindset.Athletes with a growth mindset find success in learning and improving, not just winning.

Sports: The Mindset of a Champion

Carol Dweck studies human motivation. She spends her days diving into why people succeed (or don’t) and what’s within our control to foster success. Her theory of the two mindsets- the fixed mindset and growth mindset and the difference they make in outcomes is incredibly powerful.

Introduction

"Even in the growth mindset, failure can be a painful experience, But it doesn't define you. It's a problem to be faced, dealt with, and learned from.""We all need to accept some of our imperfections, especially the ones that don't really harm our lives or the lives of the others.""Stereotype do damage by making people feel they don't belong.""Character is the ability to dig down and find the strength even when things are going against you."

Quotes from the Book

Picture your ideal love relationship. Does it involve perfect compatibility—no disagreements, no compromises, no hard work? In every relationship, issues arise. Try to see them from a growth mindset: Problems can be a vehicle for developing greater understanding and intimacy.Are you shy? Next time you’re venturing into a social situation, think about these things: how social skills are things you can improve and how social interactions are for learning and enjoyment, not judgment. Keep practicing this.

As a parent practice working the process praise with your children. Praise the processes they used—their strategies, effort, or choices.Ask these questions: "What did you learn today?" "What mistakes did you make and does it taught you something?"Fixed mindset teacher create a atmosphere of judging. These teachers look at student's beginning performance and decide who's smart and who's dumb.Great teachers believe in the growth of the intellect and talent, and they are fascinated with the process of learning.

Growth Mindset for Parents, Teachers and Coaches

"Your failures and misfortunes don’t threaten other people’s self-esteem. Ego-wise, it’s easy to be sympathetic to someone in need. It’s your assets and your successes that are problems for people who derive their self-esteem from being superior."

"Talent isn't passed down in genes, its passed down in the mindset."

Mindset is one of my favourite books. It really changed my view and mindset on a lot of things.

World-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck, in decades of research on achievement and success, has discovered a truly groundbreaking idea-the power of our mindset. Dweck explains why it's not just our abilities and talent that bring us success-but whether we approach them with a fixed or growth mindset. She makes clear why praising intelligence and ability doesn't foster self-esteem and lead to accomplishment, but may actually jeopardize success. With the right mindset, we can motivate our kids and help them to raise their grades, as well as reach our own goals-personal and professional. Dweck reveals what all great parents, teachers, CEOs, and athletes already know: how a simple idea about the brain can create a love of learning and a resilience that is the basis of great accomplishment in every area.

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From the renowned psychologist who introduced the world to “growth mindset” comes this updated edition of the million-copy bestseller—featuring transformative insights into redefining success, building lifelong resilience, and supercharging self-improvement. “Through clever research studies and engaging writing, Dweck illuminates how our beliefs about our capabilities exert tremendous influence on how we learn and which paths we take in life.”—Bill Gates, GatesNotes “It’s not always the people who start out the smartest who end up the smartest.” After decades of research, world-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., discovered a simple but groundbreaking idea: the power of mindset. In this brilliant book, she shows how success in school, work, sports, the arts, and almost every area of human endeavor can be dramatically influenced by how we think about our talents and abilities. People with a fixed mindset—those who believe that abilities are fixed—are less likely to flourish than those with a growth mindset—those who believe that abilities can be developed. Mindset reveals how great parents, teachers, managers, and athletes can put this idea to use to foster outstanding accomplishment. In this edition, Dweck offers new insights into her now famous and broadly embraced concept. She introduces a phenomenon she calls false growth mindset and guides people toward adopting a deeper, truer growth mindset. She also expands the mindset concept beyond the individual, applying it to the cultures of groups and organizations. With the right mindset, you can motivate those you lead, teach, and love—to transform their lives and your own.

Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., is one of the world’s leading researchers in the field of motivation and is the Lewis and Virginia Eaton Professor of Psychology at Stanford University. Her research has focused on why people succeed and how to foster success. She has held professorships at Columbia and Harvard Universities, has lectured all over the world, and has been elected to the American Academy of Arts and Sciences. Her scholarly book Self-Theories: Their Role in Motivation, Personality, and Development was named Book of the Year by the World Education Federation. Her work has been featured in such publications as The New Yorker, Time, The New York Times, The Washington Post, and The Boston Globe, and she has appeared on Today and 20/20.

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