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How someone else treats you is outside your control.
But noticing who or what you are exposing yourself to is within your control. And so you should focus on that.
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He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else. - Benjamin Franklin Do you ever catch yourself making excuses when things don't entirely go your way? Have you ever neglected taking responsibility for the events and circumstances of your life?
Excuses are rationalizations we make to ourselves about people, events, and circumstances.
They are invented reasons we create to defend our behavior, to postpone taking action or simpl...
The Fear Trap
We make excuses for the following key reasons:
Fear of Failure Fear of Embarrassment Fear of Success Fear of Change Fear of Uncertainty Fear of Responsibility Fear of Making Mistakes Perceived lack of confidence or resources
To successfully eliminate excuses we must first consider removing all traces of
. Fear paralyzes us and prevents forward movement in all areas of our lives.
'There’s just not enough time' This excuse means a lack of desire, focus, discipline, and direction. It suggests the wrong priorities or time management problems. It could also indicate laziness or procrastination. FOLLOW Practicing The Subtle Art Of Detachment
Why taking a step back is as necessary as moving forward From everything that I recall about my life so far, I can say one thing with absolute certainty. I have been an extremely passionate person. Passionate about everything. Be it life in general, work, friendships, relationships.
Attachment and control With attachment comes a very strong urge to control the circumstances.
You put yourself at risk by investing so much of yourself into something, unwilling to believe that there i...
Passion and attachment Feeling too much passion and attachment towards something can skew our perception of it.
And that's risky because it can make us unwilling to see the flaws in our plan.
achment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detach
FOLLOW Why Perspective Taking Is an Essential Skill for Success
Are you the kind of person who wants to achieve massive success in your life? Do you have the mental toughness to make that happen? I think we can all agree that no matter your ambitions, achieving success can be difficult; and over time, the daily grind can take a toll on your physical, mental, and emotional energy.
What Perspective Taking Is
It’s the ability to take on someone else’s point of view when thinking.
By taking yourself out of the equation, the motivations of your opponent becomes clearer. And by understanding the othe...
Develop perspective taking Put aside your feelings so that you can concentrate only on the other person’s perspective. Use open ended questions that can help you draw out the interests and motivation that the person may not be verbalizing. Be clear about your own position and the weaknesses it has. Remove any personal intentions you may have, so as not to project them on to the other person. Using what you know about the person, their background, their mood, their intentions and expectations, imagine how they are seeing the current situation. Validate their position by paraphrasing back to them what you think their position is. Using perspective taking
When you break it down, almost every aspect of business involves an element of negotiation.
By honing your perspective taking skills, you are much more likely to come up with solutions that are acceptable to all parties. Deepstash is better on the app. Discover new ideas and get inspired daily. GET THE APP SIGN IN