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How To Kindly Correct Someone When They're Wrong
Use Clarifying Questions
They will help you to:
- Gut-check our own correction. Hearing another person's reasoning might get you to realize that you are actually the one who's wrong.
- It makes you seem more aggressive and the person that did wrong might accept your help to make the necessary corrections.
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The Right Time And Place
Pull the person you want to correct aside for a private, one-on-one conversation instead of highlighting their error in front of a larger group.
Also, to correct them before they get in trouble for their mistake. A little embarrassment right now will save them even greater mortification in the long run.
Use Clarifying Questions
They will help you to:
- Gut-check our own correction. Hearing another person's reasoning might get you to realize that you are actually the one who's wrong.
- It makes you seem more aggressive and the person that did wrong might accept your help to make the necessary corrections.
Back Up Your Point With Evidence
When you’re correcting someone , be prepared to back up your point with real evidence, and not just your well-intended opinion.
Real data that supports your point is the single best way to correct false information.
Offer To Help
To be a real team player, offer to help get the things on the right patch.
Lend a hand in repairing a situation will emphasize collaboration over competition and it will make you far more pleasant to work with to boot.
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Avoid Sounding Authoritative
Being overly authoritative, confrontational, and closed-minded when making a correction will only make you look pretentious and condescending.
Be open for discussion and try saying “I’m looking at page 10 of this document, and something’s not quite matching up for me. Can we take a quick look at this part together?”
Incorporate Questions
Phrasing things as inquiries, rather than statements, makes it obvious that your intention is to facilitate a conversation that ultimately improves the end result—not just dole out strict demands.
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Reality Check
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Success Bias
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Outcome Based Thinking
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Never qualify
When preparing to tell someone what they did wrong, avoid using qualifications like "With all due respect," "No offense," or "Don't take this the wrong way" to soften crit...
Say what the problem is
... and if you must amplify your message, say where your data came from. Never try to simultaneously be a good cop and a bad cop.
Make it clear that your goal is constructive change.
Ambiguity is your enemy
Be concrete and don't sermonize, even if the person that's receiving your criticism knows she did something wrong.
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