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Mark your boundaries

Once you've empathized with the person and decided they are also just human, ask yourself what role you want them to have in your life.

  • Set rules. Define which behaviors you will and won't accept.
  • Decide on consequences if someone breaks your rules.
  • Communicate the above calmly.

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Understand people's motivation

Most people who appear to take some pleasure in hurting you have some pain in their own lives. Most feel justified in what they are doing; otherwise, they would do something else.

Whatever this person has done, look for some explanation of their motivation. These are not excuses, ju...

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Forgiving is not the same as forgetting

You can forgive someone and still maintain a boundary. They may not even necessarily know you forgave them.

When you hold onto anger towards yourself or others, it weighs you down, drains your energy and increases your stress.

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Eliminate Emotional Attachment

Let go of the emotional attachment that you've developed. Let the hatred and anger dissolve, let the thoughts of revenge and misfortune die.

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Separate the action from the person

Separate the action from the person

We all can succumb to behaviors that are not reflective of who we really are.
Separating the action from the person is crucial to find some closure.

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Empathize

Forgiveness is ultimately a form of empathy - it is taking whatever pain motivated the person and imagine that you have that same pain yourself. 

If forgiveness is the ability to see the person as a multi-faceted human being, empathizing with them is what gets you there.

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Living in the past

Resentment forces you to live in the past by fixing that person to that past moment.

Do not let yourself or the relationship be defined by anger. The ability to forgive and move on is critical for maintaining a healthy and happy relationship with the people you care about.

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Forgiveness

Forgiveness is choosing to not let negative events of the past define how you feel.

Forgiveness can keep your emotional body healthy. It increases feelings of happiness and decreases feelings of anger and grief, reduces anxiety and depression, improves your relationships and makes y...

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How to Forgive Yourself

We all do things in our lives that we regret, and then we hold on to shame and guilt. The process to forgive yourself is the same:

  • Separate the action from yourself.
  • Understand your motivation. Was it insecurity or ignorance that drove you to do this thing?

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Set boundaries

The only way to move away from languishing is to give yourself time and space to reflect.

We all need boundaries to give us time to think about where we are and where we want to be. Ask yourself where you feel resentment and frustration regarding your time and energy. 

Your influence

You can influence people and circumstances, but you can't force things to go your way:

  • To have the most influence, focus on changing your behavior. Be a good role model and set healthy boundaries for yourself.
  • When you have concerns about someone else's choices, share yo...

Use humility markers

Acknowledging your own fallibility and human imperfection can go a long way toward making yourself relatable. Especially if there’s a power dynamic where someone is asking for your advice, attention or help, you want to put the other person at ease.

Taking the time to call or meet...

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