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How to Forgive Yourself

We all do things in our lives that we regret, and then we hold on to shame and guilt. The process to forgive yourself is the same:

  • Separate the action from yourself.
  • Understand your motivation. Was it insecurity or ignorance that drove you to do this thing?
  • Empathize with yourself. How much stuff do you blame yourself for that was not your fault?
  • Mark your boundaries. 
  • Eliminate emotional attachment. There are better things to do with your energy than hating yourself.

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We all can succumb to behaviors that are not reflective of who we really are.
Separating the action from the person is crucial to find some closure.

Most people who appear to take some pleasure in hurting you have some pain in their own lives. Most feel justified in what they are doing; otherwise, they would do something else.

Forgiveness is ultimately a form of empathy - it is taking whatever pain motivated the person and imagine that you have that same pain yourself. 

Resentment forces you to live in the past by fixing that person to that past moment.

Forgiveness is choosing to not let negative events of the past define how you feel.

Let go of the emotional attachment that you've developed. Let the hatred and anger dissolve, let the thoughts of revenge and misfortune die.

Once you've empathized with the person and decided they are also just human, ask yourself what role you want them to have in your life.

You can forgive someone and still maintain a boundary. They may not even necessarily know you forgave them.

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