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When you desire to forgive
If you decide you are willing to forgive, find a good place and time to be alone with your thoughts.
- Think about the incident that angered you. Accept that it happened, how you felt about it and how it made you react.
- Acknowledge the growth you experienced as a result of what happened. What did it make you learn about yourself, or about your needs and boundaries?
- Think about the other person. When you were hurt, the other person was trying to have a need met. What do you think this need was and why did the person go about it in such a hurtful way?
- Decide if you want to tell the other person that you have forgiven him or her.
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Why forgiveness is so hard
- You're filled with thoughts of retribution or revenge
- You enjoy feeling superior
- You don't know how to resolve the situation
- You're addicted to the adrenaline that anger provides
- You self-identify as a "victim"
- You're afraid that by forgiving you have ...
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Forgiveness
By forgiving, you are accepting the reality of what happened and finding a way to live in a state of resolution with it.
This can be a gradual process—and it doesn't necessarily include the person who wronged you.
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Ask yourself these questions to let go of the past:
What happened that was unfair? Write down who you resent and what they did to cause your anger.
- How did their actions make you feel (besides angry)? How do you think they felt?
- Has holding on to this affected your life? How did it cha...
Put That Moment Into Perspective
When you react in a short-tempered manner you need to ask yourself if what happened in the moment was the cause or it was something deeper that had been building up and burst.
Step back and take a deep breath while thinking about this very moment. Is it even that big of a d...
How to Forgive Yourself
We all do things in our lives that we regret, and then we hold on to shame and guilt. The process to forgive yourself is the same:
- Separate the action from yourself.
- Understand your motivation. Was it insecurity or ignorance that drove you to do this thing?
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