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Six Verbs That Make You Sound Weak

'Want'

"I want" sounds emotional and lacking in confidence. 

It is better to use a conviction instead of a 'want', and replacing it with "I'm convinced" or "I believe".

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Six Verbs That Make You Sound Weak

Six Verbs That Make You Sound Weak

https://www.fastcompany.com/40523559/six-verbs-that-make-you-sound-weak-no-matter-your-job-title

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Weak Words Used Often

Every word you use while working expresses something about your personal brand, your confidence, state of mind, authority and knowledge. The verbs that we put in sentences are key to our image at work.

Weak words used often can end up projecting us as weak.

'Think'

We use "I think: often while at work, but it's a dysfunctional addition to a start of a sentence, that while ok to use occasionally in trivial situations, is to be avoided in meetings or one-on-ones. 

Try replacing it with "I'm confident".

'Need'

When we use "I need" at the start of a sentence it sounds like pleading rather than empowered. It makes us sound needy.

Swap "I need" with "Please" to sound polite and confident.

'Want'

"I want" sounds emotional and lacking in confidence. 

It is better to use a conviction instead of a 'want', and replacing it with "I'm convinced" or "I believe".

'Guess'

Guessing conveys a lack of surety. We use it to avoid lying or exaggerating, but it conveys our lack of knowledge.
Reframe that with '" expect" or "should" to convey confidence.

'Hope'

"I hope" carries a big 'If', and it feels the speaker has no control over the outcome, conveying uncertainty, and can feel like the speaker is untrusting of the other person.

Replace "I hope" with "I look forward to" or a similar more confident-sounding phrase.

'Suppose'

Using 'I suppose so' indicates detachment and lack of interest. Use a more enthusiastic response like "Definitely".

Language is a powerful force and the words we use travel fast and can affect our reputation and influence. Using the right words can make our power and confidence soar high.

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