2. “Don’t take this the wrong way, but…” - Deepstash
2. “Don’t take this the wrong way, but…”

2. “Don’t take this the wrong way, but…”

This phrase almost always prefaces something annoying or offensive.

What to say instead:

If so, it’s fine to say: “Is this a good time to talk? There’s something that’s been bothering me” or “I’m concerned about your performance. Let’s talk about it.”

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We should avoid these phrases that only serve to irritate the listener.

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