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7 Signs Of Highly Insecure People

7 Signs Of Highly Insecure People

Working with difficult personalities can dampen our ability to think clearly and make sound decisions.

As a leadership consultant who studies workplace psychology, I've spent more than 30 years helping thousands of individuals and teams at multimillion-dollar organizations navigate tough relationships.

And through my research, I've found that insecure people are often the most difficult to deal with.


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How to handle insecure people

Insecure types — whether in the form of a team member or boss — are all around us, so it's important to know how to deal with them efficiently.

The first step is to activate your detective mindset. Turn interacting with insecure people into a learning opportunity.


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6. Be transparent in how you communicate.

Insecure people have a tendency to see gaps in arguments, so structure how you communicate with them in this order:

  1. This is what I am certain about...
  2. This is what I believe, but am not certain about...
  3. This is what I know too little about to have a view on...
  4. ...


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9 . Show that you are not a threat.

You want them to think of you as an ally, not a rival. Pay compliments and express gratitude and appreciation: "I admire what you do, and I'm excited to continue learning from you."


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Why highly insecure types can be so challenging

While feeling insecure is natural, problematic behaviors can develop when people consistently attempt to conceal or compensate for their self-doubt.

Insecure types are extremely risk averse and unproductive. Some can be downright nasty or display abusive behaviors.


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1. Assess the size of the problem.

Count the interactions you've had with the insecure person. How many have been bad? All? Half? Less than a third?

You've now answered the most important question: How big is the problem? If you have more good interactions than bad, maybe the person is not that difficult.


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5. Have an exciting outcome in mind.

Focus on how the outcome of this interaction can create value for the other person. Ask yourself: "What would be a helpful result for them, and what reaction would I like to get?"


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8. Work in increments.

Lower their sense of uncertainty by suggesting a trial period, and include clear metrics for evaluating the decision.

For example: "How about we try this for three months and evaluate how it goes by measuring [X] once a week?"


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Common Toxic Behaviors

Here are their most common toxic behaviors, according to Harvard career expert Amy Gallo :

  1. They are overly concerned about what others think of them.
  2. They never express a firm opinion.


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4. Over-invest in 1:1s.

A lack of one-on-one syndication is one reason why strategies fail in companies.

Have a casual meeting with them or suggest a coffee break. Use this as a forum to get to know them.


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2. Identify the root causes of the problem.

Think about the negative interactions you've had with them. What topics tend to bring them on? How do you each express yourselves in these situations?

Now think about the good interactions. What is different? 


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3. Cultivate genuine compassion.

Prime your mind to host positive thoughts and have their best interest in mind.

One approach I like to use is to remind myself that the that the person is somebody's child. I ask myself: "Would I like someone to have similar negative thoughts about my kids or loved ones?"


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7. Fill in the gaps — together!

Insecure people feel more secure when they have a strong sense of ownership. Structure the work in a series of one-on-ones where both of you should have things to prepare for each meeting.


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