In life, whatever we do, our mind plays a significant role, right? It helps us to sleep; it helps us to work, eat, or even to get angry with others or ourselves.But if the mind is the guiding north star of our lives, then why do we get impatient while standing in a queue at a mall when the mind was the one who in the first place helped us to get there.

To be patient, you don’t need any control over your mind.

Everything comes down to a single point. We don’t accept reality, and then further, it makes us feel impatience.You’re getting late, and you can’t accept it, you feel impatience.There’s so much traffic, vehicles honking, radio’s playing the song you hate, and there’s no chance for you to escape. You can’t accept it. Thus, you get impatient.Non-accepting reality gives rise to less patience in our mind and everything around us.

Non acceptance of reality

This happens when we try to avoid things we do regularly. For instance, you want to stop smoking. Now, what will happen, you’d try to avoid it in a day multiple times. But if your resisting power is low, then it would only take you minutes or a couple of hours to get yourself back on the mouthful of smoke. Hence, triggering impatience in your brain. And this applies to everything you’re trying to avoid.

Lack of Resisting Power

If you do something and it would not show any results, then would you believe it? Would you keep doing it regardless of results?Perhaps you are doing something that doesn’t show results, and you don’t want to tell yourself that you don’t believe it.If the answer was no, then you’d have no patience. Why? Because belief is the thing that keeps patience in ourselves. Belief is the thing that tells us to keep walking and don’t quit. No Results = No Belief = No Patience.

Lack of Result

The feeling of impatience arrives in us when multiple tasks need to be done. Why? Because by looking at the various tasks, we develop a target or goal, where completing all of these would provide us relief or freedom to do something else.And this feeling of ours to get free from the burden motivates our mind to complete all of those tasks in less time as much as possible.Thus, we adopt the do things faster, the nature of modern humans, and start to get impatient.

Burden

In most conversations, our mind gets out of control because we don’t want to lose — our winning factor.If someone has commented on us, we can’t simply ignore it; at present, our mind and its thoughts are influenced by the mind who likes to win. Therefore, we throw back words without even thinking. The same happens to the other person, and he/she does the same thing as we did. No matter what the situation is, we always like to win. But, the winning factor of ours is pretty nasty when our Attitude gets mixed up with it. With our attitude, we start to see people inferior and ourselves superior.

 Our attitude & winning factor

The birth of impatience happened when humans first invented the wheel. Our thirst to reach somewhere faster led us to invent furthermore transportation mediums that disturbed the cycle or environment of patience, such as ships, planes, trains, and more.With our every new invention, we kept denting the structure of patience in us. However, until the 1960s, patience still had the power upon people. But then, we did the most significant invention of all the time, the Internet. And it shook the foundation of patience. We stepped into the digital world, and everything changed for patience.We did inv<warningtag>entions from factory helping tools to AI-based solutions for our real problems. Now, all we see is faster — no place for patience.</warningtag>

The First Wheel

There are situations when having less amount of time can cause impatience in us. Likewise, having plenty of time can also lead us to feel impatient. Amount of time (high/low) + Priority = Impatience

Time, When Things Are Important 

We feel impatient when something doesn’t go according to our habits. And this might lead us to feel more severe human emotions, like anger, disgust and annoyance. However, this impatience caused by our habit only comes when we’re taking/expecting something from other than ourselves. For instance, if you have the habit of having lunch at 01:30 PM every day, and somehow on occasion, you don’t get it at the right time, then you start to feel impatient.

Our Habit

It’s a shared human experience, and everybody feels it. And the only reason why it happens is when we compare ourselves to others. We see and measure our and other people’s position. Furthermore, the feeling of impatience caused by this reason, most of the time, leads us to either something better or worse. It all depends on our thinking and how we are treating and interpreting another person’s success. Is it making a good impact on us or a bad one?

When we see people succeed or getting better than ourselves

Less expensive smartphones, cheap data plans, faster speed, and lots of lots of garbage content. Every 3 guys in 5 people is a Vlogger. And of course, the Infinite Scroll.We are consuming things that only have 2 to 3 minutes of content. And on Instagram, it only takes 2 to 3s. The Infinite Scroll, causing us to scroll the page in every 1s. We are becoming less focused and addicted to much of much content every minute. This whole short content viewership is taking away our focus and cutting time in our attention span. Meaning, we are getting impatient to see new things every time.

Viewing & interacting with short length content

<ul><li>Order food, and it will arrive in 15 minutes, or you’ll get your money back guaranteed. </li><li>If you want a cab, just open an app on the mobile phone, and your taxi would be outside in a minute. </li><li>No need to stand in a queue at a mall ’cause Amazon.com got your back. </li><li>Haven’t paid your bills and can’t stand outside the billing counter, because you’ve to pee and don’t want to give your spot to another person, then don’t worry, there’s an online portal for that, too.</li></ul>Ah! It seems like there’s no need to be patient.

The Effects

Turns out there are way too many reasons I could be impatient. Feeling relieved!

In this post, Nathawat Brothers have shared some of the reasons that would give you better ideas about the causes of impatience.

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