An attachment style is a specific pattern of behavior in and around relationships. According to attachment theory, first developed by psychologist Mary Ainsworth and psychiatrist John Bowlby in the 1950s, a person's attachment style is shaped and developed in early childhood in response to their relationships with their earliest caregivers.

A secure attachment style doesn’t mean you can take for granted that your relationships will be smooth sailing. If two securely attached people are in a relationship, they’re starting out from a better position, but relationships take work for everyone, no matter your attachment style.

Tips for people with secure attachement style

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Actively observing your own emotions and considering how you pull away from others will require a lot of work. But that effort can be an eye-opening way to help understand your style and learn to let others in.

Tips for people with avoidant attachement style

<ul><li>Childhood source: when caregivers consistently fulfill a baby’s physical and emotional needs</li><li>Adulthood charactrristics: able to trust others and be trusted, love and accept love, and become close to others with relative ease.</li></ul>They're not afraid of intimacy, nor do they feel panicked when their partners need time or space away from them. They're able to depend on others without becoming totally dependent

1. Secure attachement, the healthy ideal of relationship

People with an anxious attachment can benefit from what we call ‘rituals of separation, like texting during the day to tell that we're thinking of them. They make a conscious effort to acknowledge that they’re leaving and also that they will be back.

Tips to help them to feel confident 

Some people who have a disorganized attachment style can often benefit from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), a type of talk therapy that’s especially helpful for people who experience very intense emotions.

Tips for people whith fearful-avoidant attachement

(the combination of both the anxious and avoidant attachment styles)<ul><li>Childhood source: forms through a particularly tumultuous childhood, often one that may be marked by fear or trauma</li><li>Adulthood characteristics: difficulty regulating emotions, heightened sexual behavior, and increased risk for violence in their relationships.</li></ul>They are reluctant to develop a close romantic relationship, yet at the same time, feel a dire need to feel loved by others

4. Fearful-avoidant attachment,

<ul><li>Childhood source: when a caregiver doesn’t provide a baby with sufficient emotional support</li><li> Deepest fear: Intimacy</li><li> Adulthood characteristics distant, emotionally unavailable, may find relationships suffocating and avoid them completely, preferring to be independent and rely on themselves.</li></ul>People with an avoidant attachment style tend to have trouble getting close to others or trusting others in relationships, because they ultimately don't believe their needs can get met in a relationship.

3. Avoidant attachement or dismissive-avoidant attachment 

<ul><li>Childhood source: When primary caregivers aren’t consistent in meeting a baby’s needs </li><li>Deepest fear: Abandonement</li><li>Adulthood characteristics: neediness or clingy behaviour</li></ul> People with an anxious attachment style tend to be very insecure about their relationships, often worrying that their partner will leave them and thus always hungry for validation.

2. Anxious attachement or anxious-preoccupied attachment

The way our caregiver may treat us during childhood can have a big impact on how we manage relationship, our attachement style

There are four different attachment styles that people may have in relationships, and they're often caused by childhood experiences.

Tips for people with secure attachement style

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