Relationships must have their foundation in true love, and not in the need to get someone to validate our actions or to make us happy.

Relationship Needs Good Foundation

Study ourselves deeply and determine what works for us.Understand how we can break free of our past hurts.If someone keeps draining our energy, find a way to remove ourselves from that situation.

Learn Ourselves 

Without realizing it, we have created different versions of ourselves that define how we see and react to other people.
People only see the version of us that we want them to see.

We Are Who We Decided To Be

As a person grows older, they lose their innocence, and hence, always try to follow societal beliefs.This distorts a person’s capacity to love.The same mind–limiting framework governs the way we relate with others.If an individual had an abusive relationship with their parents, they might find themselves gravitating towards abusive relationships, as they believe that being abused is the only way to get attention.

Mind-limiting Framework

We will only love a person that we don’t feel the need to change.Therefore, we must identify the strengths and the flaws of our partner, and accept them.Also, do not project our sadness on our spouse. Realize that everyone has our own baggage, and so, carry ours.

Accepting Is Important

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

We master anger, envy, and other negative behaviors, and they slowly become who we are.The same way we have mastered these negativities, we have to master love.Still, many find it hard to accomplish this because of the hurt that we feel or the belief that it-is-impossible.

We determine our mastery

When we start loving yourself more, it is easier to see the truth.It also becomes easy to block those lies that people keep telling us.We should uncover the truth to those lies we have always used to limit our growth.

Self-love

The quality of relationship depends on the attitude of all the parties involved.<ul><li>Love is respect. We should not control or change the people you love.</li><li>Love is always kind. In contrast, fear drives you to anger, which is basically a mask for fear itself.</li><li>Love embraces responsibility. If you love someone, you will never shy away from the responsibilities that the relationship places on you.</li><li>Love is unconditional. There is no reason to be ashamed of the people you claim to love.</li></ul>

Love Is…

If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.

Fear is the enemy of growth.

People is addicted to love because they go into relationships for the wrong reasons.They know what loneliness and rejection mean. Therefore, as soon as they get a sniff of love, they jump at it.This will spur them to become obsessive. They are scared of returning to their state of loneliness.Instead of loving out of fear, we are advised to love ourselves first.Self–love will help us cherish being alone, which will stop us from jumping into a relationship for the wrong reasons.

The Wrong Reasons

The Mastery of Love explains how we can turn hurt into a learning curve, including how to handle fear.

From the international bestselling author of The Four Agreements In The Mastery of Love, don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships. Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows us how to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to loving relationships. The Mastery of Love includes: • Why “domestication” and the “image of perfection” lead to self-rejection• The war of control that slowly destroys most relationships• Why we hunt for love in others, and how to capture the love inside us• How to finally accept and forgive ourselves and others “Happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love. When you are aware that no one else can make you happy, and that happiness is the result of your love, this becomes the greatest mastery of the Toltec: the Mastery of Love.” — don Miguel Ruiz__________________ About the Authors Don Miguel Ruiz is the international bestselling author of The Four Agreements (a New York Times bestseller for over a decade), The Four Agreements Companion Book, The Mastery of Love, The Voice of Knowledge, The Circle of Fire, and The Fifth Agreement. The teachings of Ruiz are best known for transforming complex human issues into simple common sense — a talent that has earned him millions of fans and international acclaim. Janet Mills is the founder and president of Amber-Allen publishing. She is also the coauthor, with don Miguel Ruiz, of six books in The Toltec Wisdom Series, creator of The Four Agreements for a Better Life online course, and editor of Deepak Chopra’s bestselling title, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. Her life’s mission is to publish books of enduring beauty, integrity, and wisdom, and to inspire others to fulfill their most cherished dreams.

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Don Miguel Ruiz is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Don Miguel Ruiz has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Don Miguel Ruiz's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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Janet Mills is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Janet Mills has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Janet Mills's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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