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We Are Who We Decided To Be

We Are Who We Decided To Be

Without realizing it, we have created different versions of ourselves that define how we see and react to other people.

People only see the version of us that we want them to see.

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We determine our mastery

We determine our mastery

We master anger, envy, and other negative behaviors, and they slowly become who we are.

The same way we have mastered these negativities, we have to master love.

Still, many find it hard to accomplish this because of the hurt that we feel or the belief that it-is-impossible.

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DON MIGUEL RUIZ

Fear is the enemy of growth.

DON MIGUEL RUIZ

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Mind-limiting Framework

Mind-limiting Framework

As a person grows older, they lose their innocence, and hence, always try to follow societal beliefs.

This distorts a person’s capacity to love.

The same mind–limiting framework governs the way we relate with others.

If an individual had an abusive relationship with their parents, they might find themselves gravitating towards abusive relationships, as they believe that being abused is the only way to get attention.

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Relationship Needs Good Foundation

Relationship Needs Good Foundation

Relationships must have their foundation in true love, and not in the need to get someone to validate our actions or to make us happy.

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LAO TZU

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

LAO TZU

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Love Is…

Love Is…

The quality of relationship depends on the attitude of all the parties involved.

  • Love is respect. We should not control or change the people you love.
  • Love is always kind. In contrast, fear drives you to anger, which is basically a mask for fear itself.
  • Love embraces responsibility. If you love someone, you will never shy away from the responsibilities that the relationship places on you.
  • Love is unconditional. There is no reason to be ashamed of the people you claim to love.

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Accepting Is Important

Accepting Is Important

We will only love a person that we don’t feel the need to change.

Therefore, we must identify the strengths and the flaws of our partner, and accept them.

Also, do not project our sadness on our spouse. Realize that everyone has our own baggage, and so, carry ours.

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The Wrong Reasons

The Wrong Reasons

People is addicted to love because they go into relationships for the wrong reasons.

They know what loneliness and rejection mean. Therefore, as soon as they get a sniff of love, they jump at it.

This will spur them to become obsessive. They are scared of returning to their state of loneliness.

Instead of loving out of fear, we are advised to love ourselves first.

Self–love will help us cherish being alone, which will stop us from jumping into a relationship for the wrong reasons.

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CHARLES BUKOWSKI

If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.

CHARLES BUKOWSKI

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Self-love

Self-love

When we start loving yourself more, it is easier to see the truth.

It also becomes easy to block those lies that people keep telling us.

We should uncover the truth to those lies we have always used to limit our growth.

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Learn Ourselves

Learn Ourselves

Study ourselves deeply and determine what works for us.

Understand how we can break free of our past hurts.

If someone keeps draining our energy, find a way to remove ourselves from that situation.

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A junior reader who enjoy topics that advocate for self-improvement. Also a proponent of healthy living and mindfulness (still learning). Let’s connect and explore the world of books together!

CURATOR'S NOTE

The Mastery of Love explains how we can turn hurt into a learning curve, including how to handle fear.

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