Some of the lessons
1. It's ok to disappoint people: we naturally disappoint people, and people will disappoint us. This is part of life.
2. Boundaries create generosity: when we have clear limits and prioritize our own needs, we can actually meet the needs of others. The more fulfilled our own needs are, the more we can fulfill the needs of others.
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