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Phrases to Use (4)

Phrases to Use (4)

Continue Conversation/Support Responses

  • “Have you been there before?”
  • "How did your family choose that location?”

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Solutions to Hesitator

Solutions to Hesitator

  • Learning by doing it
  • Avoid Intention Action Gap
  • Reinforce your own identity

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Maximizer

Maximizer

Characteristics:

  • Unrealistic expectations from partner and relationship
  • Extensive research preceded every major—or minor —decision so obsess over decision making and correct choices. Analysis Paralysis
  • Suffer from FOMTWD (fear of making the wrong de...

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Romanticizer

Romanticizer

Characteristics:

  • Left to fate/god for good relationship and partner
  • Have expectation like Disney Movies

Solution:

  • Have work it out attitude

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What to Test in Partner (2)

What to Test in Partner (2)

Take a look at what unfolds when you two hang out:

  1. Do you enjoy spending time with this person?
  2. Do they make you happy?
  3. Do you like who you are with them?
  4. Do you want to kiss them?
  5. Is your interest in them growing, waning, or just ...

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During Tense Period Ask This:

During Tense Period Ask This:

  1. Are there extenuating circumstances going on in your partner’s life right now
  2. What are your expectations of a long-term relationship? Are they realistic?
  3. Avoid false-consensus effect ;-a tendency to assume that the majority of others agree with our own values, beliefs, and...

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Hesitator

Hesitator

Characteristics:

  • Lacks the courage to initiate dating and often finds excuses to delay it.
  • Holds unrealistic expectations of themselves in the dating context.

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Solutions to Romanticizers

Solutions to Romanticizers

Dispelling Myths in Dating:

  • No soul mate, try and find out different partners
  • No perfect happy ending , work it out
  • No rom-com or meet cute, love finds it way over time
  • Social media couple lie, only good and highs are posted

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Solutions to Maximizer

Become Rationalizer or Saticifizer

Rationalizer:

  • Possesses the ability to convince themselves that they made the right decision.
  • When committed to someone, their brain works to convince them that it was a good decision.

...

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What to Look for in a Partner (2):

What to Look for in a Partner (2):

Qualities to Seek in a Partner:

  • Emotional Stability, Kindness, ability to self-regulate
  • Kindness: how they treat people from whom they don’t need anything.
  • Loyalty: see if they have friends from different stages of their lives
  • Growth Mindse...

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Meeting people in real life

Meeting people in real life

  • Use event decision matrix
  • Ask friends and family to setup
  • People in lines are bored, strike conversation
  • Connect with people you already knew
  • Strike conversation on flight and train, experimentally proven to be beneficial

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Dating Tips:

Dating Tips:

  1. Treat it as date not an interview
  2. Experience the date over evaluating the partner
  3. Pre date rituals: Listen comedy, Do minor exercise to release endorphins
  4. Selection of time and place: Show you have put effort in selecting place and activity | Opt for creative/fun/...

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Why You Can't Date

Why You Can't Date

Paradox of choices:

  • Multiple choice make hard to select or regret the decision.
  • Finding every answer about partner/relationship to certainty.
  • Modern dating role models are poor for long lasting relationships, find better role models.

T...

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What to Look for in a Partner (1):

What to Look for in a Partner (1):

  • Avoid Present Bias or Forcing Illusions
  • Money matters, but only up to a certain extent, but don’t prioritize wealth above all else.
  • Don’t prioritize lust over more important long-term factors.
  • Someone who complements you and help you in achieving in long term goal...

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What to Test in Partner (1)

What to Test in Partner (1)

Check yourself after meeting

  1. What side of me did they bring out?
  2. How did my body feel during the date? Stiff, relaxed, or something in between?
  3. Do I feel more energized or de-energized than I did before the date?
  4. Is there something about th...

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How to Preserve Relationship

How to Preserve Relationship

  • Falling in love is different from being in love
  • Remove negativity bias, remember good things
  • Remove fundamental-attribution error
  • Know difference between Permissible pet peeves and non tolerant
  • Create decision points before transitioning in next step
  • ...

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Phrases to Use (1)

Phrases to Use (1)

For asking out

  • “Hey, I’d love to keep talking about [insert thing you were discussing]; what’s the best way to connect?”

  • “I’m excited to spend time with you today”; “I like your brain”; and “I just want to rush into things with you.”

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Phrases to Use (2)

Phrases to Use (2)

For taking it forward

  • Have you ever considered if we could be more than friends?”
  • I wonder what we’d be like as a married couple.
  • if they’re not interested, what’s the worst that could happen? Make a joke and move on.

Openers f...

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Phrases to Use (3)

Phrases to Use (3)

Strike deep conversation directly

  • “You’ll never guess what happened on my way over here!”
  • “I just got off the phone with my sister, and she told me about this battle she’s in with her landlord over the recycling bins.”
  • "You can ask about a real thin...

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