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Encourage communication

When wanting to encourage healthy communication, start by making sure that everybody participates in the conversation. This is one of the safest ways to ensure deeper connections and meaningful communication within groups and not only.

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Esther Perel

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Speaking and listening

Individuals show a tendency to speak more than to listen. Therefore, the art of listening seems to be in some sort of delay when compared to the one of speaking. However, both of them are essential in order to ensure a healthy communication.

Encourage communication

When wanting to encourage healthy communication, start by making sure that everybody participates in the conversation. This is one of the safest ways to ensure deeper connections and meaningful communication within groups and not only.

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