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This distinction between anger and aggression is critical because we need to handle each very differently. Unfortunately, our instincts for how to do this tend to be dead wrong.
Instinctively, we tend to get defensive in the face of anger and say (or think) things like:
The common theme is that you're being critical of their anger, of their emotional experience. The problem is, anger isn't really the problem . None of us have direct control over how we feel emotionally. And to be criticized or judged for something we don't really have control over feels terrible.
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See, what most people don't realize is that anger is actually a positive emotion . We think of it as bad or negative because people who are angry often end up doing negative things. But if you really think about it, the feeling of anger ...
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Second, this storytelling is self-serving. The fact that these stories you're telling make you look like the good guy and her look like the bad guy are going to make you feel better. And the fact that it makes you feel better is a major conflict of interest when it comes to being objective. Maybe...
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While you can't control your emotions of anger directly, you have control over your aggression, which is a decision to express your anger.
Aggression does not only involve acts of violence. Being overly-critical or judgmental of someone in your mind is an act of aggression, as is replyi...
When you are angry you often have terrible thoughts. But those thoughts tend to be imaginative and creative. Science shows that anger helps us create.Β
That is because it is part of our fight or flight system. So anger is used to help you think of a unique way to he...
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