Step 2: Attention
The second step of the process is attention. What we pay attention to further constrains the situation.
So, what about the situation are you paying attention to?
- Is the dog puke drawing most of your focus? (With the smell, it’s hard to ignore.)
- Are you immediately focused on the future, thinking about what you have to do to clean up?
- Are you focused on what your family member might have been thinking when they left the house in such a mess?
In all versions, the basic facts of the situation remain the same. But the focus of our attention can impact the emotion we end up feeling.
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