High-conflict people (HCP)

Everybody has bad days or weeks. To tell if someone is a High Conflict Person, we can look for four traits of behavior.

1. Lots of all-or-nothing thinking: When problems arise, it is their solution or no solution. They don't compromise or listen to different points of v...

We all know a few people that cause grief, not merely because they have a bad day but because they have severe problems and are unwilling to change.

We can learn enough to recognize if someone is a "high-conflict person" and avoid them as much as possible.

• With Narcissistic HCPs: You may feel stupid or inadequate. You may feel in awe and flattered that the person is spending time with you.
• With Borderline HCPs: You will want to yell at then to get them to stop behaving in some inappropriate way.

• Extreme emotions are signs of possible trouble: extreme charm, extreme love, extreme anger.
• Someone that carefully controls their emotions until they lose it, then they become unrecognizable in their lack of control.
• Other emotions...

• Narcissistic HCPs fear disrespect. They act in such a way that people inevitably lose respect for them.
• Borderline HCPs fear abandonment. They are a nonstop emotional that makes everyone run away from them.
• Antisocial HCPs fear con...

Each type of toxic people gives clues if you pay attention:

• Narcissistic HCPs: Words that indicate arrogance, entitlement, and a lack of empathy.
• Borderline HCPs: They have victim narratives. You’ll empathize with them because their life kee...