Imagine stranding on a desert island. There is land to be discovered but nothing yet to "see", you have to build the castle first. The same goes with relationships. We are so nervous on dates because we are already seeing the castle even though it is not there yet - you have to build it first.
People also do not value the castle, they value the connection.
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Dating and relationship advice from Matthew Hussey.
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