If A Man Is Truly Serious About You, He Will Do This!

Imagine stranding on a desert island. There is land to be discovered but nothing yet to "see", you have to build the castle first. The same goes with relationships. We are so nervous on dates because we are already seeing the castle even though it is not there yet - you have to build it first.

People also do not value the castle, they value the connection.

Chemistry refers to chemicals released by your brain when you are in love with someone, such as oxytocin. Their release is reduced after 18 to 24 months into the relationship and has to be "build up" again.

Compatibility lasts longer as it is not based on chemicals but on how you connect.

There are four levels of importance:

1. Admiration
2. Connection, chemistry or both
3. Commitment, saying "yes" to each other
4. Compatibility

... when they tell you something bad about themselves.

"If someone is telling you something that isn't good for their pitch, that means it took some activation energy to do that." - Matthew Hussey

"Don't pick up the leaves from the tree, take the root of the tree."

Take a problem at its root and solve it as soon as it arises. Don't allow small things to build up over time.

The problem is never the other person but the relationship between you. Problems affect both of you and should therefore be solved by both of you.

• "Women have to ask questions too, even if they're afraid of the answer."
• Men like it when a woman knows what she wants.
• Women can also make the first step.
• Men don't want attention, they want intention.
• When someone says they don't want it, they don't want it - believe them.

(Note: These ideas are originally based on heterosexual relationships but I personally believe they are not limited to any specific gender or relationship.)