If someone is intentional about dating, they ask intentional questions because they want to know you.

If someone is telling you something that would make their life more difficult to tell you, then it's probably true.

Chemistry refers to chemicals released by your brain when you are in love with someone, such as oxytocin. Their release is reduced after 18 to 24 months into the relationship and has to be "build up" again.Compatibility lasts longer as it is not based on chemicals but on how you connect.

Chemistry Is Not Compatibility

<ul><li>Don't change your behaviour daily. Consistency is important.</li><li>"Invest then test": First, invest in the relationship, then test if it works.</li><li>Communicate and give clear signs that you like them.</li><li>"I move a bit, you move a bit": Meet each other in the middle.</li></ul>

Getting To Know Each Other

... when they tell you something bad about themselves."If someone is telling you something that isn't good for their pitch, that means it took some activation energy to do that." - Matthew Hussey

Believe Them

"Don't pick up the leaves from the tree, take the root of the tree."Take a problem at its root and solve it as soon as it arises. Don't allow small things to build up over time.The problem is never the other person but the relationship between you. Problems affect both of you and should therefore be solved by both of you.

Solving Problems

<ul><li>"Women have to ask questions too, even if they're afraid of the answer."</li><li>Men like it when a woman knows what she wants.</li><li>Women can also make the first step.</li><li>Men don't want attention, they want intention.</li><li>When someone says they don't want it, they don't want it - believe them.</li></ul>(Note: These ideas are originally based on heterosexual relationships but I personally believe they are not limited to any specific gender or relationship.)

Genders In Dating

<ol><li>I took these notes while listening to this podcast three years ago. I am not sure whether the episode linked is the one I listened to back then, but it's the closest I could find.</li><li>Dating advice is very sensitive and personal. I personally do not resonate with some of the advice Matthew Hussey offers (I modified them a little). Take what resonates, leave the rest!</li></ol>Relationship advice I resonate more with: <a href="https://dsta.sh/VACZ6rkrcgCzxDMh7">8 Rules Of Love Summary</a>Despite this, I still wanted to move the notes from my notes app to Deepstash as they might help someone.

Disclaimer

There are four levels of importance:<ol><li>Admiration</li><li>Connection, chemistry or both</li><li>Commitment, saying "yes" to each other</li><li>Compatibility</li></ol>

Levels Of Importance

Imagine stranding on a desert island. There is land to be discovered but nothing yet to "see", you have to build the castle first. The same goes with relationships. We are so nervous on dates because we are already seeing the castle even though it is not there yet - you have to build it first.People also do not value the castle, they value the connection.

Building The Castle

Dating and relationship advice from Matthew Hussey.

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On this episode of Women of Impact, motivational speaker and dating advice expert Matthew Hussey joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they break down the complicated parts of finding love and reveal how dating and relationships can be much simpler than you might think. They discuss the importance of feeling someone just try in a relationship, how to identify good intentions, why you have to invest in someone, the pitfalls of building up a story in our heads even before the first date, and why you should be willing to ask the difficult questions necessary in developing a strong relationship long-term. 

SHOW NOTES:

It’s Not That Complicated | Matthew shares the importance of feeling someone just try. [1:53]
Intentions | Matthew discusses the difference between attention and intention. [5:46]
Invest, Then Test | Matthew shares why trying and staying confident is key to finding love. [7:20]
Complicated | Matthew shares why we try to force a fix when it gets complicated. [12:45]
Fantasy | Matthew reveals the pitfalls of writing a story in your head before it’s unfolded. [15:15]
Process | Matthew shares the four stages of importance in developing any relationship. [18:13]
Maintenance | Matthew discusses why the work in a relationship never ends. [23:52]
What They Actually Mean | Matthew reveals the true meaning behind what he says. [27:09]
What You Can Trust | Matthew reveals what you can trust that signals he likes you. [31:45]
Ask | Matthew shares why you shouldn’t shy away from asking the tough questions. [33:56]
Be Ruthless | Matthew reveals why you have to stand firm in your conviction. [39:21]
Love Switches | Matthew discusses the importance of knowing what your partner needs. [40:05]
Difficult Talks | Matthew shares why you shouldn’t steer clear of difficult conversations. [43:12]
Connect | Matthew shares how you can get his free guide and follow him for more. [47:05]

QUOTES:

“Attention does not mean intention. We can get lots of attention from someone who has no intention of taking it anywhere further…” [5:46]

“Don’t invest in someone based on how much you like them, invest in them based on how much they invest in you.” [7:13]

“Instead of watching a story unfold, we’ve created the story before it’s happened.” [15:15]

“Women have to be brave enough to ask questions that they’re afraid of the answers to.” [35:35]

“Be kind in your tone, but ruthless in your actions.” [39:21]

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On Today's Episode:

Download the Relationship Survival Guide, which includes questions to ask your significant other that will reveal some deep truths here: https://impacttheory.com/knowledge-center/

On this episode of Women of Impact, motivational speaker and dating advice expert Matthew Hussey joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they break down the complicated parts of finding love and reveal how dating and relationships can be much simpler than you might think. They discuss the importance of feeling someone just try in a relationship, how to identify good intentions, why you have to invest in someone, the pitfalls of building up a story in our heads even before the first date, and why you should be willing to ask the difficult questions necessary in developing a strong relationship long-term. 

SHOW NOTES:

It’s Not That Complicated | Matthew shares the importance of feeling someone just try. [1:53]
Intentions | Matthew discusses the difference between attention and intention. [5:46]
Invest, Then Test | Matthew shares why trying and staying confident is key to finding love. [7:20]
Complicated | Matthew shares why we try to force a fix when it gets complicated. [12:45]
Fantasy | Matthew reveals the pitfalls of writing a story in your head before it’s unfolded. [15:15]
Process | Matthew shares the four stages of importance in developing any relationship. [18:13]
Maintenance | Matthew discusses why the work in a relationship never ends. [23:52]
What They Actually Mean | Matthew reveals the true meaning behind what he says. [27:09]
What You Can Trust | Matthew reveals what you can trust that signals he likes you. [31:45]
Ask | Matthew shares why you shouldn’t shy away from asking the tough questions. [33:56]
Be Ruthless | Matthew reveals why you have to stand firm in your conviction. [39:21]
Love Switches | Matthew discusses the importance of knowing what your partner needs. [40:05]
Difficult Talks | Matthew shares why you shouldn’t steer clear of difficult conversations. [43:12]
Connect | Matthew shares how you can get his free guide and follow him for more. [47:05]

QUOTES:

“Attention does not mean intention. We can get lots of attention from someone who has no intention of taking it anywhere further…” [5:46]

“Don’t invest in someone based on how much you like them, invest in them based on how much they invest in you.” [7:13]

“Instead of watching a story unfold, we’ve created the story before it’s happened.” [15:15]

“Women have to be brave enough to ask questions that they’re afraid of the answers to.” [35:35]

“Be kind in your tone, but ruthless in your actions.” [39:21]

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