The Stories That Stop Us From Being Present & Taking Action
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But you don’t need them to take action. Focus on the present, and just act. Take a “don’t know” mindset. Stay present and stay curious as you act. Stop thinking you know what it will be like ahead of time.
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One of the oldest and most straightforward storytelling formulas:
Also known as Freytag’s Pyramid:
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