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As important and healing as gratitude is, we can't be grateful all the time. There is a time when we also have to make room for complaints.
For weeks, we've been going through phases. Hoarding and planning move into anxiety and stress, and now we've entered the stale phase. We've planned to be productive, but struggle to self-motivate. Complaining is a survival tool to help you cope if you use it wisely.
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Sign Up Log In Complaining is better with others Make space for other people to vent aloud. They know that they are powerless, and they have to accept the situation. Venting gives them the illusion that they are in control. Have a little competition with your best complaints. Create a house chart of complaints where your kids can let out their own. Avoid complaining mistakes (such as: getting carried away by anger, firing too many complaints at a time or thinking that complaining alone will save us from our problems).
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the decline of empathy in our society. This encourages selfishness in one party without regard to the consequences of others. Try to end relationships respectfully and conclusively, even when they were short in duration. Act with kindness and integrity. This allows both parties to enter another relationship with a clear head rather than with insecurity. There is no such thing as the ideal partner Thus, you should give up the hope that you can be flawless and put together every day in a relationship.
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Specific situations demand certain reactions, and this idea of people being “too much” or “crazy” is destructive because it causes you to act fake and pretend that your partner’s hurtful actions don’t bother you.