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Why Do I Hate Myself And How To Stop It?
Hating Ourselves
"I hate myself" is a common self-talk. You really are your worst enemy, however painful this may feel.
Feelings of self-hatred and unworthiness are felt by a majority of people. Each of us has a critical inner voice filled with paranoia and suspicion. We tend to accept this self-talk and it influences our behaviour and self-esteem. These are self-destructive feelings.
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Hating Ourselves
"I hate myself" is a common self-talk. You really are your worst enemy, however painful this may feel.
Feelings of self-hatred and unworthiness are felt by a majority of people. Each of us has a critical inner voice filled with paranoia and suspicion. We tend to accept this self-talk and it influences our behaviour and self-esteem. These are self-destructive feelings.
Effects of Self-Hatred
Self-hatred gives us negative thoughts, telling us we are unattractive, lack confidence, and are generally unworthy. If we listen to it, we give it power. We then create a negative shield around us and will have trouble accepting love and compassion.
The internal negative breeding will attract further negativity in our lives and relationships.
How To Stop Hating Yourself
- Pay attention to your triggers by reflecting on your thoughts and actions, identifying your inner negative talk.
- Question and challenge your negative thoughts, and detach from them.
- Start saying positive affirmations to yourself to counter the negativity.
- Reframe your negative thoughts by changing your point of view.
- Spend time with positive people who fill you with joy.
- Seek professional help as this may be a mental health issue.
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