Depression is not a joke
Traits of a perfectly hidden depression syndrome
• Your perfectionism is fueled by a constant, critical inner voice of intense shame or fear.
• You demonstrate an excessive sense of responsibility and look for solutions.
• You are unable to accept and express painful emotions.
• You dismiss or discount abuse or trauma.
• You worry a lot and avoid situations where you're not in control.
• You are highly focused on tasks and expectations and validate yourself with your accomplishments.
Becoming aware of your perfectionism can be very complicated because you've convinced yourself that your perfectionist traits are normal and not a problem. It is good to understand that not everyone is like this.
An exercise to develop more insight into the role that destructive perfectionism plays is mindfulness. Sit somewhere comfortable and set a timer for five minutes. Breathe deeply and close your eyes. Stay focused on your breath. If your mind wanders, gently let go of those thoughts and refocus on your breath. When the timer goes off, check your emotions, such as irritation, relief, feeling foolish. Simply notice and watch them dissipate.
You cannot outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite. The inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limit the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty, like love, belonging, trust, joy and creativity.
If criticism makes you defensive, an attitude change can help.
Constructive criticism can show you how to improve, making your less-than-perfect performances into steps towards excellence. If the criticism you’re receiving is pointed or harsh, it’s okay to remind others and yourself that mistakes are a great way to learn.
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