The best way to tame your advice monster is to replace it with a new habit of staying curious. Questions that may help you achieve this:
- Ask the other person what they think is the real challenge? It helps them to find the important issue and prevents you from providing them with a quick, wrong answer.
- Ask, "What Else?" The first answer the other person will give you is never their only answer. It will help them to delve deeper into the situation.
- "What do you want?" This is a very powerful question. When they know what they want, they get to move toward that action with autonomy and confidence.