The best way to tame your advice monster is to replace it with a new habit of staying curious. Questions that may help you achieve this:
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When somebody asks you for advice about something, and before you can gain the full context, your 'advice monster' is like, "Oh, oh, I've got something to say here."
The problem is not with giving advice, but when giving advice becomes your default response.
As soon as somebody starts talking, your advice monster wakes up with, "Oh, I'm going to add some value to this conversation!"
Learn to tame your advice monster. To train it, you need to understand it.
Your advice monster is really saying that you are better than the other person and they are not good enough.
However, you are losing that connection to your humanity, your empathy, your compassion, and your sense of vulnerability.
This underscores the importance of starting on the right foot. If you upset the person you’re trying to help, they’ll wall themselves off.
It's important to use empathy, but don’t get too friendly. Take a careful balance between making someone like you and asserting your authority.
When someone mentions a problem, it most likely isn’t the core problem but only an outward symptom.
Even if by some miracle one is able to find out the real problem, it does not mean that the advice doled out will be useful or will be implemented.
Productivity exists more in our heads, and not so much in our work environments.
If you are extremely productive by toiling for hours, your boss does not care, even though he or she may be impressed by your accomplishments. Bosses want you to deliver quality work on time, not caring about how many hours and missed sleep went into it.