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What's the point of grief?

Experiencing Grief

Experiencing Grief

Everyone has to experience grief at some point in life. It is an evolutionary trait that is present in mammals in general.

There seems to be a certain purpose for this internal response that we all have naturally.

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What's the point of grief?

What's the point of grief?

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Experiencing Grief

Everyone has to experience grief at some point in life. It is an evolutionary trait that is present in mammals in general.

There seems to be a certain purpose for this internal response that we all have naturally.

The Five Stages Of Grief

The stages of coming in terms with grief are:

  1. Denial
  2. Anger
  3. Bargaining
  4. Depression
  5. Acceptance

These widely accepted stages are considered rigid and obsolete as modern psychologists update the understanding of grief.

The Attachment Theory

It focuses on the psychological connectedness of grief, looking at the quality of bondings that are made during the course of our lives.

Grief, and even the behaviour of babies in the absence of parents suggests it is not just a mental experience, but has physiological effects, like raising the level of the stress hormone cortisol in our bodies.

Modern Science On Grief

Neuroscience can measure the brain in grief, showing that the region nucleus accumbens lights up when we are close to our loved ones, and also if we lose them.

Grief can be for all sorts of reasons, not just losing a loved one. Any world-shifting event that affects us directly or a traumatic event in our lives can shatter and disorient us. This is known as the assumptive world theory.

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The key is to choose life, and not lose the ones we have, to what we have already lost.

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Resilient People

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  • depression (sadness, emptiness, guilt, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, hopelessness),
  • acceptance. 
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Chemical Reactions

The rejected lover experiences high levels of dopamine and norepinephrine in the brain, and are visibly stressed out. These chemical reactions trigger many to do crazy things to win their ex back. Such feelings are erased quickly if the lover starts dating a new partner.

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Suffering as part of life

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When tough times do come, resilient people seem to recognize that suffering is part of every human life. Understanding this stops you from feeling discriminated against when trouble comes.

Directing your attention

Resilient people typically manage to focus on the things they can change and accept the things they can't.

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Passion and attachment

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Research suggests that sleep terrors occur during non-REM sleep dreaming, while nightmares tend to happen during REM sleep. 

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