9. Mindful Presence in Relationships

• They spend money on others. One reason is that it creates social connections.
• They celebrate other people's success through "active and constructive" responding.
• They treat everyone with respect and kindness. Kindness, like happiness, is contagious.

Our minds often wander and we're not present in the moment, with the people in front of us. 

When you are not fully present, you are less likely to hear, understand and respond skillfully.

Having awareness is critical. We can’t solve problems in any domain without understanding details from both our perspective and that of other involved parties. If we are projecting your views onto a given situation, we are not going to come up with consistently viable solutions....