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What Jealousy Is Trying to Tell You
Jealousy involves comparison
Jealousy often involves a social comparison where the other person appears more desirable.
It is a drama of shame and pride. You may employ one or more of the typical coping defensive responses, which can involve withdrawal, avoidance, attacking yourself, or attacking the other person.
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Conflict mistaken for passion
Arguments and disagreements in relationships are normal, but screaming matches and every day fighting isn’t.
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Keeping the peace
Ignoring problems in a relationship in order to avoid conflict will only mean that the problems pile up until they can no longer be ignored – and by then, it might be too hard to fix.
Keeping score
Keeping track of the things that you do, versus the things that they do is a way to create pressure and conflict where there should only be teamwork.
Sit down together and work out a plan on things like chores or bills, and who does or pays what.
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FOMO “fear of missing out”
FOMO is a form of social anxiety — a compulsive concern that one might miss an opportunity or satisfying event, often aroused by posts seen on social media websites.
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How FOMO Forms
FOMO is not just wondering what other people think of your experiences and choices that you post on social media.
FOMO forms when you begin to compare yourself and your experiences to others and start to actually become scared that you are missing out on something.
Face Your FOMO
One way is to swop FOMO for JOMO, the “joy of missing out.”
More and more, people are realizing that true joy that can come from not caring what other people are doing, not feeling envious and not being afraid that they’re missing out on anything.
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Not Asking for Help
There are a handful of reasons we don’t ask for help, but it’s usually because we’re too proud or scared, and that’s a huge waste of time, because it keeps you from moving forward.
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Trying to Make Bad Relationships Work
Reasons people usually use:
- Thinking you have more in common with the person you're dating than you actually do;
- Being in a relationship just to avoid loneliness;
- Staying in a relationship only out of fear of losing the person.
Bad relationships cloud your judgment, prolong your unhappiness, and distract you from things that matter to you most.
Dwelling on Your Mistakes
Learning from your mistakes is one thing. Dwelling on them wastes your time, diminishes your confidence, and keeps you from getting on with your life.
Dwelling makes you feel like a failure. When you feel like a failure, it’s easy to tell yourself there’s no point in trying, because you already suck.