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Although jealousy is unpleasant, it gives us information. Jealousy involves fear with worrisome thoughts of a potential loss.
Jealousy can make us feel insecure, rejected, worried, or angry. Jealousy makes us aware of an obstacle to the connection between ourselves and a loved one.
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Jealousy often involves a social comparison where the other person appears more desirable.
It is a drama of shame and pride. You may employ one or more of the typical coping defensive responses, which can involve withdrawal, avoidance, attacking yourself, or attacking the other person.
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Experiencing jealousy gives you the opportunity to learn.
Jealousy lets us look at ourselves and consider what we want for ourselves, how we want to be treated by others, and what we are going to do about what we've learned.
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Arguments and disagreements in relationships are normal, but screaming matches and every day fighting isn’t.
People who seek out conflict in their relationship for the intense reconciliation are often addicted to the dopamine that they get after the fight is over – which isn’t healthy for either person.
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Bad relationships cloud your judgment, prolong your unhappiness, and distract you from things that matter to you most.
Learning from your mistakes is one thing. Dwelling on them wastes your time, diminishes your confidence, and keeps you from getting on with your life.
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FOMO is a form of social anxiety — a compulsive concern that one might miss an opportunity or satisfying event, often aroused by posts seen on social media websites.
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FOMO is not just wondering what other people think of your experiences and choices that you post on social media.
FOMO forms when you begin to compare yourself and your experiences to others and start to actually become scared that you are missing out on something.
One way is to swop FOMO for JOMO, the “joy of missing out.”
More and more, people are realizing that true joy that can come from not caring what other people are doing, not feeling envious and not being afraid that they’re missing out on anything.