The Fear of Missing Out: Or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Instagram
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Practice taking your time when eating, driving, talking, or engaging in the tasks of everyday living.
Focus on the kinds of things that enhance the quality not the quantity of your experiences.
There are always going to be people we admire and perhaps envy. It’s “the grass is greener on the other side” syndrome.
Focusing on the experience—a feeling of accomplishment, adventure, connection, fun, self-respect, freedom—that underlies the object or symbol—wealth, marriage, a sports car, a luxurious home—helps us distinguish what is truly fulfilling from that which can only provide a temporary feeling of pleasure.
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FOMO is the experience of worrying that other people are doing more interesting things than you, have more friends than you, and are just all around living a better and cooler life.
Choosing one path means missing another.
When you feel FOMO coming on, ask yourself if the trigger is really something you wish you were doing yourself, or if the sudden recollection of the great number of choices in life has simply brought on a moment of insecurity about your own.
If it’s the latter, taking a moment to reaffirm your decision is all it takes to chase the FOMO away.
Keep in mind that your FOMO trigger may not relate directly to something you wish you were doing yourself, but can instead point more broadly to something you want to change about your life.
Examine the source of your FOMO before dismissing it; there may be a good reason you feel insecure about your decisions.
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Living with constant or recurring fear, from post-traumatic stress to paranoia to FOMO, doesn’t improve life quality; it just makes us haunted and tense.
Our task is to live in a FOMO-plag...
When you feel FOMO coming on, remind yourself that practically every image you see on practically any screen is likely misleading.
The human experience depicted by the media is never the whole truth — and often an outright lie.
What if we let FOMO mean something else?
Try inventing your own FOMO definition.
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You’re not feeling so great — whether you realize it or not — and you turn to social media to make you feel better. Only one problem there: it actually makes you feel worse…
We all know that Facebook doesn’t provide a very well-rounded picture of people’s lives. It’s more like the cherry-picked perfection version.
People with FOMO have ambivalent feelings toward Facebook. It brings them up when they post about their own carefully edited version of life awesomeness, and slams them back down when they feel they have to compete with other people's lifestyle awesomeness - especially when they're feeling a little down or anxious themselves.
Looking at social media for happiness is a bad idea. You won’t find it out there. Your happiness is determined by how you allocate your attention. What you attend to drives your behavior and it determines your happiness.
Changing behavior and enhancing happiness is as much about withdrawing attention from the negative as it is about attending to the positive.
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Any decision as big as moving abroad is bound to spark fear: The timing will never feel perfect. It will always be hard to leave family and friends, and your career will always be in f...
Careful planning can cancel out many of the common fears around moving abroad, including fears about your career or the fear of being lonely.
The movie-like approach of "pick a place you think you might like, save money, buy a one-way ticket and hope that you will get a job once you are there" might not work for you if you are held out by fears.
There is always a chance that moving abroad won't work out as you imagined.
Realize that this won't be the end of the world. You can always go back home, or you can always move to another city or country. This is not your only shot, and if you decide your new home isn't for you, it's perfectly okay to reconsider.
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Blogger and entrepreneur Anil Dash wrote about the “Joy of Missing Out,” a term he coined to describe the satisfaction of doing things on his own terms.
If you return, decide which sites to spent time on and which not.
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The fear of missing out has always been there. But the explosion of social media has made FOMO more prevalent as we can easily see what all our peers are doing all the time.
In a recent study, scientists examined the effect of FOMO on first-year university students.
In a study, the team was interested in finding out if FOMO experiences were linked to social media usage. FOMO seemed to be a commonly reported feeling, which created negative emotions and feelings of distraction.
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The "pursuit of joy" seems to be the new buzzword to counter the fear of missing out phenomenon.
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We are constantly invited to do something, think something, experience something or buy something.
For every social event or task we say yes to, we run the risk of overfilling our lives. It may leave us feeling overstretched, overtired and overwhelmed.
There is often an underlying fear that prevents us from saying no. Perhaps we fear that we are not good enough. We find the compulsive "yes" might help us feel better. However, we cannot continue living at this pace.
We need to ask ourselves why we continue to do the very things that make us unhappy. Self-restraint and missing out are vital for our well-being.
When we struggle with something that most people don’t seem to struggle with, we start to think there's something wrong with us. And we tend to live in ways that avoid making our struggles obv...
We get to know the world and its challenges through a unique, personal experience, which nobody else can see, so nobody has a direct view of what’s easy or hard in the experience of others. We piece together what’s “normal” by observing how others, on the whole, seem to be doing at the same challenges.
Two people’s experiences of the same challenge differ wildly, beyond any desire, effort, and perseverance. But most of the messages we get about success (at school, at work, in the media) minimize everything else. Nobody can ever tell you how hard or easy something should be for you. They don’t have enough information.
If you can calculate the odds of living your life all over again, would you do the same things you are doing now? If you are 35 now, starting all over would make you 70. By 40, starting o...
Instead of becoming discouraged by all the goals that have not been completed, decide to start living. Live with clarity and direction.
Realize that the time is passing, but it's what we do every moment forward that counts.