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This Is How To Create Happy Memories That Will Last A Lifetime
Creating Moments Of Elevation
Certain experiences make us feel joyful, engaged, amazed and motivated.
- Concerts, museums and great outings engage all our senses, making the moments stand out intensely.
- Breaking the routine, or the ‘script’ of life provides us with a pleasant surprise, resulting in little moments of big memories.
- Competing in something, like a game or a bet, raises the stakes and creates in us a rush of endorphins, making the event more entertaining and memorable.
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Close friendship
To be best friends, you are committed to always be on standby. It's not that hard to be there for someone when you can physically be there, but when you're separated by state or time zone, ...
Keep creating shared experiences
When you see a friend regularly, you develop a collection of shared memories. You will also have an intimate understanding of what they're up to generally. If you're separated long-term, those experiences will shrink.
It's important to create something you share with the other individual, not just exchanging information about past experiences. The more opportunities you give yourself to connect, the more organically you'll get to know your friend's new life.
It's going to take more effort
The idea that you can sustain a friendship and pick up right where you left off after long stretches of silence is a myth. A relationship grows stronger through nurturing.
Although long-distance hacks can work for a time, there's no replacement for in-person interaction. It's more expensive and more of a hassle, but it's the best way to recharge a long-distance friendship.