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Self-help vs Social science
Self-help literature, like information, exists as raw, uncurated, unexamined information, while social science is like knowledge, beginning with the aggregated data and the processes of thinking, developed and updated over time.
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Dale Carnegie’s advice to make people like you
- Become genuinely interested in other people.
- Smile.
- Remember names.
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- Talk in terms of the ot...
Actively showing interest in other people
When people speak, the best responses are both active and constructive: engaged, enthusiastic, curious and has supportive nonverbal action. Ask questions. Be excited. Ask for details. Smile. Touch. Laugh.
It's a powerful technique - it makes you more liked and people more receptive to your requests.
Smiling does make you more attractive
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Dale Carnegie
He is one of the most influential authors in the self-improvement industry, and the creator of the book "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living", which deals with tactics for ...
"What's the worst that can happen?"
When worries overwhelm you:
- Ask yourself what's the worst that could possibly happen.
- Prepare to accept the worst.
- Figure out how to improve upon the worst, should it come to pass.
Gathering facts objectively
- You can pretend that you're gathering this data for someone else, so you're distancing yourself emotionally from the process.
- You can pretend that you're a lawyer who is preparing to argue the other side of the issue — so you gather all the facts against yourself. Write down the facts on both sides of the case and you'll generally get a clearer picture of the truth.
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Reading Fiction
- What may sound a bit counterintuitive, is that reading fiction can provide us with self-improvement benefits, even though the stuff we read would just be a figment of someon...
Developing Empathy Through Fiction
Imagining stories activates the particular regions inside our minds that facilitate better understanding of others and seeing our surroundings with a new perspective, equivalent to putting oneself in someone else's shoes.
When we read about a situation and how someone else is feeling, we create the feeling inside our minds.
Reading As A Form Of Meditation
With just six minutes of silent reading, a person can lower their heart rate and ease the tension in their muscles by about 68 percent.
Reading puts our mind in a low gear, resting its cognitive ‘chips’ and disengaging it from active duty for a while. Reading puts our mind into a light trance, a form of meditation, and has similar benefits like relaxation and a peaceful, calm feeling.