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Why Love at First Sight Is Possible for Some People

To love or not to love

  • While love at first sight is real, it's not all perfection. If you don't think you might be subconsciously misplacing some feelings, go for it.
  • Don't be afraid to break up if you feel the relationship is over.
  • Don't confuse needing someone for loving someone. While you may think it is love at first sight, you may really desire companionship or nurturing.
  • If you think you are experiencing love at first sight, be sure it's after you've ruled out signs that it is not.
  • Don't be afraid to end the relationship. If it isn't meant to be, then live and learn.
  • Follow your gut. It's okay to hesitate, even if your heart is saying yes.

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