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Feeling Alone in a Relationship? You're not Alone
Reconnection Between Partners
The path to reconnection is full of hard conversations with the ego kept aside. One can initiate discussions intentionally and set a time limit so that things do not go haywire.
When in a conversation deadlock, one can take a walk together, appreciating the willingness of the partner to engage. It helps to mention the positives and discuss one issue at a time.
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Social Inequality
- Before we move towards a just society by going vocal globally, we need to cater to first place the injustice starts: Our Homes.
- We need to have some hard conversations with our near and dear ones to understand the genesis of inequality and injustice before we try to eradicate the problem on a large scale.
- We need to ask our loved ones how their beliefs, decisions, and choices came into being while keeping the conversation flowing by showing curiosity and not losing our temper.
Tolerance and Broadening Our Mindsets
- We need to find out how much tolerance we have of people that are different from us, whether it is their looks, background or belief patterns.
- We also need to bust the myth that feeling really strongly about someone does not mean that one is right.
- There are various online resources available like podcasts and videos that can educate individuals willing to understand reality and broaden their mindset about social inequality, diversity, and social justice.
The value of complaining
As important and healing as gratitude is, we can't be grateful all the time. There is a time when we also have to make room for complaints.
For weeks, we've been going through phases. Hoarding and planning move into anxiety and stress, and now we've entered the stale phase. We've planned to be productive, but struggle to self-motivate.
Complaining is a survival tool to help you cope if you use it wisely.
Complaining is better with others
- Make space for other people to vent aloud. They know that they are powerless, and they have to accept the situation. Venting gives them the illusion that they are in control.
- Have a little competition with your best complaints.
- Create a house chart of complaints where your kids can let out their own.
- Avoid complaining mistakes (such as: getting carried away by anger, firing too many complaints at a time or thinking that complaining alone will save us from our problems).
Financial Tensions In A Relationship
- Most couples have disagreements and difference of opinion with matters related to money, due to many factors.
- We live in a society where attaining financial security is a huge challenge, whereas financial success is placed on a high pedestal.
- Marriage has traditionally been based on various economic factors unrelated to love and companionship. Families, land, wealth and resources have always dominated the alliance.
- We have a complex relationship with money and carry a lot of baggage in our heads, old belief patterns and behaviours, which spill into the relationship.
Marriage Is Also A Financial Partnership
The subject of money becomes the centre of the cyclone in most relationships.
- As gender roles get skewed, old rules are getting thrown out the door and money is becoming a measuring scale of status, access, freedom, comfort, interdependence, independence, trust and loyalty.
- People who grew up poor would want to prove their worth, and others who grew up rich may not understand the need.
- The age of marriage is now a decade ahead then it was earlier, and most people are already economically independent, and may have also accrued various purchases and built a credit and debt portfolio.
Plan Ahead And Live Together
Partners need to recalibrate their living, working, parenting and recreational patterns and get back to the drawing board about how to spend and save. No previous rules seem to apply in this age of the pandemic, job losses, political uncertainty and widespread conflict.
One needs to ask oneself basic questions about the meaning of money and how it would impact the rest of one’s life and relationship with family and loved ones.