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Feeling Alone in a Relationship? You're not Alone
Being a Good Listener In Relationships
- Listening is key, and proper listening comes with inquisitiveness, attentiveness and curiosity, and not from simply waiting for the partner to stop.
- If a partner stops talking, gently ask them to tell you more, while making them feel listened to and heard, with no competition or upstaging to massage your ego.
- Keep asking your partner to open up more and more.
- If the conversation is not possible, try texting or writing to each other.
- Remember that it is not about you, and if your selfishness, narcissism or ego comes in between, the conversation is over.
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Social Inequality
- Before we move towards a just society by going vocal globally, we need to cater to first place the injustice starts: Our Homes.
- We need to have some hard conversations with our near and dear ones to understand the genesis of inequality and injustice before we try to eradicate the problem on a large scale.
- We need to ask our loved ones how their beliefs, decisions, and choices came into being while keeping the conversation flowing by showing curiosity and not losing our temper.
Tolerance and Broadening Our Mindsets
- We need to find out how much tolerance we have of people that are different from us, whether it is their looks, background or belief patterns.
- We also need to bust the myth that feeling really strongly about someone does not mean that one is right.
- There are various online resources available like podcasts and videos that can educate individuals willing to understand reality and broaden their mindset about social inequality, diversity, and social justice.
The value of complaining
As important and healing as gratitude is, we can't be grateful all the time. There is a time when we also have to make room for complaints.
For weeks, we've been going through phases. Hoarding and planning move into anxiety and stress, and now we've entered the stale phase. We've planned to be productive, but struggle to self-motivate.
Complaining is a survival tool to help you cope if you use it wisely.
Complaining is better with others
- Make space for other people to vent aloud. They know that they are powerless, and they have to accept the situation. Venting gives them the illusion that they are in control.
- Have a little competition with your best complaints.
- Create a house chart of complaints where your kids can let out their own.
- Avoid complaining mistakes (such as: getting carried away by anger, firing too many complaints at a time or thinking that complaining alone will save us from our problems).
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Key Ideas
Loneliness is a perception issue
Loneliness has more to do with our perceptions than how much company we have: it is just as possible to feel very lonely surrounded by people as it is to be content with little social contact.
Dealing with loneliness through creativity
One way people have always dealt with loneliness is through creativity. By metamorphosing their reality into art, lonely people throughout history have managed to interchange the sense of community relationships could foster with their creative outputs.
The artist Edward Hopper (1882–1967) is known for his paintings of American cityscapes inhabited by closed-off figures who seem to embody a vision of modern loneliness.