Avoiding a heated exchange

Instead of trying to persuade someone that they are wrong, try to create a different premise. You can debate to learn something, or to see the other person’s viewpoint, understanding why they disagree. You can also politely put on the table what you think about the topic, not wai...

Anxiety spikes happen when something triggers us during an argument, usually when what that we care about feels threatened.

We need to be aware of these spikes to guide us into the emotional aspect of the argument, rather than only focusing on information.

Conversations are supposed to generate new ideas, not to turn into heated arguments. 

But that will most likely be the result when we discuss anything that’s central to our identity.