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The balance between personal and professional effectiveness
Proactivity versus reactivity
The importance of defining your path in life
Our Ego While Giving Advice
While giving advice it is often the giver of the advice that gets benefited, as the receiver most likely didn’t even listen properly. The ego of the giver is stoked and their desire to be someone of stature and authority is realized.
If one has to give advice, it is best to frame it in a way that the other person can feel free to take that option or leave it, instead of imposing anything.
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Advice Perceived As Criticism
Providing good, solid advice to someone can be counterproductive as the other person may take it as criticism or an attempt by someone to shatter their beliefs and self-confidence, causing stress and repulsion.
Some people unleash their ‘advice monster’ and start to tell others what should...
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The Advice Trap
It happens when one rushes to provide advice, which is most likely to be discarded or ignored, even if the person was asked for it.
Even with good intentions, providing advice isn’t necessarily a good idea. We normally do not welcome any advice provided to us, with a natural refle...
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Word Play When Asking For Advice
When someone mentions a problem, it most likely isn’t the core problem but only an outward symptom.
Even if by some miracle one is able to find out the real problem, it does not mean that the advice doled out will be useful or will be implemented.
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Ignorance And Superficial Knowledge
Most people are ignorant of their ignorance and live in a self-created bubble of superficial knowledge, which they believe is the only true knowledge there is, due to a cognitive bias known as the Dunning-Kruger effect.
A piece of straightforward advice doled out to be followed ...
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No One Has All The Answers
A leader can no longer be expected to be an expert in everything, and it can be draining to create unrealistic expectations. Providing advice makes the other person dependent and hinders their self-reliance.
Coaching helps the other person invent their own solutions, and asking q...
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- We're solving the wrong problem: The first challenge that shows up is seldom the real issue.
- Our advice is not nearly as good as we think it is: Cognitive bias makes us think we're brilliant at things even though we aren't.
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Expectations are Part of Our Ego
Dropping all expectations isn’t that easy.
We usually do not look at reality as it is, due to it coloured by our beliefs, ideals, fantasies, frustrations, and assumptions. Expectations become part of our ego and becomes the reason we feel discouraged, overwhelmed and inadequate.
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