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This Is How To Resist Distraction: 4 Secrets To Remarkable Focus - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

When faced with distraction, keep your goals in mind

Thinking about your long-term goals when you’re tempted by distraction gives your brain a sense of control and can release dopamine which will make you feel better and more motivated.

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This Is How To Resist Distraction: 4 Secrets To Remarkable Focus - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

This Is How To Resist Distraction: 4 Secrets To Remarkable Focus - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

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When you’re reacting, you’re not in control of your life

Your brain reacts to the bombardment of environmental stimuli coming its way. But while you’re definitely doing something, you’re rarely achieving your goals

Make distractions harder to reach

When you have fewer things to react to or you make it harder to react to them, you’ll be less reactive.

When faced with distraction, keep your goals in mind

Thinking about your long-term goals when you’re tempted by distraction gives your brain a sense of control and can release dopamine which will make you feel better and more motivated.

Resist distraction and be less reactive:

  • Control your context: You can’t react to what’s not there.
  • Stay calm: Stress and reacting leads to dumb behavior.
  • Think about your goals: Get Stoicism, mindfulness and dopamine on your side.
  • Make a deliberate decision: When you do, your brain is better able to resist no-no’s.

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