The solution to the confidence conundrum is not to feel as though you lack nothing and delude yourself into believing you already possess everything you could ever dream. The solution is to simply become comfortable with what you potentially lack. - Mark Manson
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Those among us who are the most comfortable with negative experiences are those who reap the most benefits. Comfort in our failures allows us to act without fear, to engage without judgment, to love without conditions
Much of the confidence we crave is based on how we want others to see us.
Confidence comes from within. It’s not just about owning the stage and giving a knockout performance but putting the time in to learn the lines, finessing the routine.
Not wanting to seem weak, needy, and incompetent or like we’re taking advantage often keeps us from asking for help, but that’s often an overblown fear caused by our tendency to think the worst. Not asking for help, we miss out on potential knowledge and may end up worsening situations.
Having a support system leads to higher levels of well-being, better coping skills and a longer and healthier life.
The main cause of our trouble with being decisive comes down to this process: cultural conditioning +negative habits.
There are persons that start life from a disadvantaged position in terms of confident decision-making. But we should know that this is still largely constructed not inborn.
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