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How to Be Confident (When You Don't Have Anything to Be Confident About)

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How to Be Confident (When You Don't Have Anything to Be Confident About)

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Like, how are you supposed to be confident at your new job if you've never done this type of work before? Or how are you supposed to be confident in social situations when no one has ever liked you before? Or how are you supposed to be confident in your relationship when you've never been in a successful relationship before?

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Confidence and self-perception

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Confidence is not necessarily linked to any external marker - our confidence is rooted in our perception of ourselves regardless of any tangible external reality. So improving the external, tangible aspects of our lives won't necessarily build confidence. - Mark Manson

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Confidence=becoming comfortable with what you are not

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The solution to the confidence conundrum is not to feel as though you lack nothing and delude yourself into believing you already possess everything you could ever dream. The solution is to simply become comfortable with what you potentially lack. - Mark Manson

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Confidence comes through failure

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Those among us who are the most comfortable with negative experiences are those who reap the most benefits. Comfort in our failures allows us to act without fear, to engage without judgment, to love without conditions

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If you want to be more confident, start admitting to the gaps in your knowledge

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How to be more confident: You might not think you have it, but anybody can learn to have more confidence. The Guyliner talks you through the ways to embrace your weaknesses, read the room and come out a kinder, more confident gent.

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Confidence comes from within

Much of the confidence we crave is based on how we want others to see us.

Confidence comes from within. It’s not just about owning the stage and giving a knockout performance but putting...

True confidence

True confidence in yourself doesn’t come only from the knowledge you already possess, but a willingness to learn more.

There’s no shame in admitting you don't know something; you’re showing just how confident you can be. Ask questions, be curious about the world around you.

The confident man is calm

A truly confident man won’t get aggressive or arrogant, because those traits suggest someone is losing control. He knows keeping cool and talking in a calm, measured way is the quickest way to get respect.

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How to Feel Confident in Social Situations

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It can be hard to feel confident in social situations. In fact, when most people anticipate social situations it can bring up a little anxiety. Guess what, this is normal. The feelings of anxiety and excitement actually changes your brain chemistry.

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5 Tips to Feel Confident

Let your body do the talking. Body language and facial expressions can be just as important as your words. Your posture is key.
Be mindful of your tone of voice. Yo...

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How to Be Decisive: 4 Strategies for Confident Decision-Making

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Want to know how to be more decisive? These 4 practical strategies will help you feel more confident in your decision-making.

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Why we are not decisive

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The main cause of our trouble with being decisive comes down to this process: cultural conditioning +negative habits.

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Learning to be more decisive

This comes down to pinpointing and getting rid of the habits that increase indecisiveness.

If you feel you struggle to be decisive it's because you've developed habits that increase your lack of confidence when it comes to decision-making.

Uncertainty is a key feature of decision-making

Recognize and accept the fact that you will not be able to control and solve all uncertainty and that you don’t need to. You will be anxious about that, but it's normal.

This will make it much easier for you to simply make a decision and move on.

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