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How to Be Confident (When You Don't Have Anything to Be Confident About)

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How to Be Confident (When You Don't Have Anything to Be Confident About)

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Like, how are you supposed to be confident at your new job if you've never done this type of work before? Or how are you supposed to be confident in social situations when no one has ever liked you before? Or how are you supposed to be confident in your relationship when you've never been in a successful relationship before?

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Confidence and self-perception

Confidence is not necessarily linked to any external marker - our confidence is rooted in our perception of ourselves regardless of any tangible external reality. So improving the external, tangible aspects of our lives won't necessarily build confidence. - Mark Manson

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Confidence=becoming comfortable with what you are not

The solution to the confidence conundrum is not to feel as though you lack nothing and delude yourself into believing you already possess everything you could ever dream. The solution is to simply become comfortable with what you potentially lack. - Mark Manson

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Confidence comes through failure

Those among us who are the most comfortable with negative experiences are those who reap the most benefits. Comfort in our failures allows us to act without fear, to engage without judgment, to love without conditions

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If you want to be more confident, start admitting to the gaps in your knowledge

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How to be more confident: You might not think you have it, but anybody can learn to have more confidence. The Guyliner talks you through the ways to embrace your weaknesses, read the room and come out a kinder, more confident gent.

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Confidence comes from within

Much of the confidence we crave is based on how we want others to see us.

Confidence comes from within. It’s not just about owning the stage and giving a knockout performance but putting...

True confidence

True confidence in yourself doesn’t come only from the knowledge you already possess, but a willingness to learn more.

There’s no shame in admitting you don't know something; you’re showing just how confident you can be. Ask questions, be curious about the world around you.

The confident man is calm

A truly confident man won’t get aggressive or arrogant, because those traits suggest someone is losing control. He knows keeping cool and talking in a calm, measured way is the quickest way to get respect.

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How to Ask for Help When You Need It Most

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Nod your head if you've ever had to ask for help at work, at home or anywhere else. Now, nod again if you've ever felt shy or silly when doing so. I'm sure some of you reading would have nodded twice!

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Asking For Help

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Not wanting to seem weak, needy, and incompetent or like we’re taking advantage often keeps us from asking for help, but that’s often an overblown fear caused by our tendency to think the worst....

Seeking Help Is Strength

By taking an active step in seeking help or advice, you’re actually taking control of your life, and not letting external circumstances (such as what people think) affect how you behave and perform. It is courageous to accept your weaknesses.

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How To Build The Self-Confidence You Need To Win At Life - Darius Foroux

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Do you ever feel shitty about yourself? It happens all the time to most of us. It seems like everyone is building billion-dollar businesses, becoming YouTube stars, or making it big on Instagram. Deep down, most of us also know that it's 99% bullshit.

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Lack Of Self-Confidence

... is associated with:

Depression
loneliness and feeling left out
Lower academic achievement
Lower life satisfaction

“Self-confidence without competence is of as little use as is competence without self-confidence.”

Building Your Self-Confidence

You become more self-confident if you become better at what you do.

The process goes like this:

Improve your competencies
Put them into practice
See results
Grow more confident
Repeat

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