Humans are protective beings. If what we care about is threatened, our initial instinct is to want to do something about it.
Revenge is a motivator. Adam Rippon, the American figure skater, said his haters motivated him to make it to the Winter Olympics.
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While it can feel very satisfying to play tit-for-tat, studies show that revenge is often short-lived.
Revenge can make an incident much harder to overcome. Pay-back ties you to the person and keeps you focused on the mistreatment. It prevents you from moving forward and redirecting your life.
We can't control when toxic emotions run through our minds, but we can control how we respond to those feelings.
Instead of seeking revenge, turn inward, find the root of that feeling, and either use it as a learning experience or warning flag as you move toward something better. Doing so will enable you to handle future difficulties with more grace and wisdom
While the desire to "get even" is understandable, doing so is likely to make things worse.
When done rightly, apologies can heal relationships, dissolve anger and hatred, and mend broken bonds. The problem is that we don’t apologize very well, and end up stirring further anger.
Our nonapologies are ruining our relations and making our lives even more miserable and complex.
In the first five to ten minutes of a race, riders pull to the side of the road, pull their shorts down just like you would underwear and do their business. During this neutral rollout, there's lots of time to catch back on to the peloton.
Once the pace picks up, it's easier to wait for a lull in the race when a big part of the peloton pulls to the side of the road. But, they also pee off the bike while riding.
Many individuals and couples have an idea in their minds about what kind of apartment they would like to move into. The problem is when there are more than a couple of factors, preferences and opinions.
A scientific way to make a decision about the things that we consider important is to make a decision matrix, listing the various factors that are crucial to the final choice, and assign weightage to each factor.
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