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Humans are protective beings. If what we care about is threatened, our initial instinct is to want to do something about it.
Revenge is a motivator. Adam Rippon, the American figure skater, said his haters motivated him to make it to the Winter Olympics.
While it can feel very satisfying to play tit-for-tat, studies show that revenge is often short-lived.
Revenge can make an incident much harder to overcome. Pay-back ties you to the person and keeps you focused on the mistreatment. It prevents you from moving forward and redirecting your life.
While the desire to "get even" is understandable, doing so is likely to make things worse.
We can't control when toxic emotions run through our minds, but we can control how we respond to those feelings.
Instead of seeking revenge, turn inward, find the root of that feeling, and either use it as a learning experience or warning flag as you move toward something better. Doing so will enable you to handle future difficulties with more grace and wisdom
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A perfect apology has to be without ego, an expression of genuine regret, and the assumption of full responsibility: I am so sorry that you were hurt, this accident is completely my fault, and I really was going too fast, and too carelessly.
A botched or half-hearted apology taints the act of apologising, not leaving space for any further apology to arise from the other person.
Most people understand love at first sight to be falling in love with a stranger when they see them for the first time. But love at first sight is based on stereotypes, imagination, and ass...
If you have experienced love at first sight, think what made the stranger stand out to you.
Knowing this, you may understand why some are certain about the possibility of love at first sight.
But it doesn't make the potential resulting breakup easier. It leaves us feeling like we lost something destiny had intended.
F.O.B.O is our inability to decide between different options all of which are decent. It can lead us to paralysis when we’re in the process of making a decision.
For F.O.B.O. to happen, you have to have multiple options. It is mostly a consequence of our world in which everything seems possible.
To beat FOBO, find the Mostly Fine Decision. This is the outcome you’d be ok with, even if it’s not the absolute best possible one.